We all want love. So what keeps us from having more love in our lives? At least these four things:
1. We don’t really think we’re worthy-we believe messages we’ve heard from parents, friends, etc. that if we only (fill in the blank), we could have what we want. So we keep trying to fill what we see as an empty bucket, instead of coming from “I’m ok as I am.”
2. We get too easily discouraged. We reach out to people at networking functions, place personal ads, go to singles dances, wait for someone who’s said “I’ll call you” and we give up when it doesn’t happen as we hoped it would.
3. We’re ambivalent about what matters most, so we send mixed messages.
4. We have expectations and demands about the way love has to be.
Four Ways To Bring More Love Into Your Life:
1) Do whatever it takes to experience yourself as lovable. Use Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life.” Hay suggests saying as often as needed, “I approve of myself.” What I’ve found when I do that is it replaces my old tapes. Just as you can record over a cassette or a video, so you can get a new belief by “recording” different thoughts and words into your brain.
2) To get to that place of self-love, you can never give up. Figure out what matters and hold the vision. Your purpose, to attract to you what would make your life richly fulfilling. You simply can’t give up on that. Read Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich.”
Support is critical. If you could have done it on your own, you would have already. Join a meditation group.
3) The biggest antidote to ambivalence is doing what it takes to get to clarity.
If you’re not sure if you want marriage or just a short romance, children or no children, this man or that man, ask: What do I need to get clear? Make a list and write down everything you want out of a relationship, the type of person you want, your life together, and visualize getting what you want daily. What ever you can visualize-you can create.
4) With clarity comes a good deal of peace and renewed energy. You still need to distinguish between preferences, expectations and requirements. If you don’t have clarity about your boundaries, about what is or is not fulfilling, you may allow the merely Acceptable instead of the Desirable into your life.
I am not advocating that you take whatever comes your way, nor am I suggesting that you be rigid.
What I am saying is that we all have our positives and negatives, and that if a partner meets most of our needs, it probably does not serve the relationship to harp on the missing pieces.
Clarity, Persistence, and knowing your real Requirements is all it really takes to attract love into your life.