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The Cracked Pot

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.

At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.
But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.

‘I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.’

The old woman smiled, ‘Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?’

‘That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your
side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.’

For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table.

Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.’

Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.

You’ve just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.

SO, to all of my cracked pot friends, have a great day and remember to smell the flowers on your side of the path!

From this story, I want you to consider the following six (6) points for your own life:

1) We all are cracked pots! Some of our cracks are just more visible than others but equally all of our cracks produce something good – whether it is pretty flowers along the way or internal strength and self-confidence. In a similar way, your child’s ‘cracks’ often provide you with the most sweetest of fragrances in your life. Take all of this in and ask yourself, what is flourishing, growing….blossoming in your life and in your child’s life because of your cracks? Take a moment to jot down what you come up with. The answer(s) may surprise you.

2) Speak out and up quick! The cracked pot went on feeling bad, miserable and ashamed for two (2) whole years. What about you? How long do you beat yourself up? Is there something that is/has been eating at you, keeping you awake at night, gnawing at your sanity for a while? For days, months, years? If so, let it out now – talk to someone today.

3) Do what you need to do when you need to do it. The cracked pot thought that it wasn’t doing what it was designed to do. Many times, we can also feel like we are not doing all that we are capable of doing as a parent, an employee/employer, a spouse, a friend….or just as a person all of the time. You may not be and you know what else? That’s perfectly 100% ok! Your life would not be nearly as fun as it could be and it would be over way faster than it should be, if you try to do everything you need to do all at once. It is truly not about doing all that you are capable of doing all at one time but rather doing what you need and can do at the right time. This may mean that you cut those 30 items on your daily to-do list down to 10 or even 5….and that one of your to-do’s include some ‘you’ time, in one way, shape or form. You may know by now, that self-preservation (i.e. taking care of yourself) is a big soap-box point of mine. Read More Here

4) Don’t apologize for your own (or your child’s) ’imperfections’. The cracked pot kept apologizing for its crack and its perceived impact of this crack. Likewise, we can also sometimes have the tendency to repeatedly apologize for what we think is not quite right with us or our child. I’ve had many parents tell me how bad they feel when they have had to bring something up to the school about their child. They say things like: “I don’t want to be seen as the crazed and overprotective mom of ___(their child) or “I don’t want to rock the boat” or they start many a sentence with the words ”I’m sorry for/about X____ (whatever it may be). If you do or are doing this, please stop. Rock that boat, be the crazed mom/dad and start celebrating you and/or your child’s imperfections.
Remember: ‘perfect’ is in the heart of every imperfection.

5) Stop projecting and comparing. Like the cracked pot, many times we compare our perceived weakness (i.e. our cracks) to another person’s perceived strengths (i.e. their hidden cracks, I like to say) – and are all the more miserable for it. Or just like the cracked pot thought that he was causing the water bearer more work, we also can sometimes project our insecurities onto others. This is often due to our own lack of self-confidence and our tendency to think others are expecting more from us than they really are.

6) Keep the good ones. The water bearer knew about the pot’s crack the whole time and still saw the beauty and blessings from it. The good people who are in your life who know about and have known about your cracks for some time (even when you try to hide them), who keep it to themselves and don’t talk bad about you to others, who don’t throw your flaws back up in your face, and who continue to love and support you and see your beauty regardless…..these are the good ones you need and want to keep really close by your side.

Lastly, just like the water bearer used the pot’s cracks to bring sweet smelling and beautiful flowers to his master’s table, I encourage you to be your own water bearer this month and look at your cracks for what they are and for what they give you and with both arms flung wide open, embrace all of your cracked pot self! (I say this in the best possible and most compassionate way – and in return, please stop for a moment and take notice (and pick a few if you like) of all of the beautiful, precious and most amazing flowers that have sprung up and are springing up because of you.

As always, I would love to hear from you. Please take a moment to share your thoughts, comments or feelings about either this topic and/or anything else you so desire.
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Comments on: "The Cracked Pot" (16)

  1. Sweet Billie,

    First of all, Thank You for the beautiful post! It came straight to my heart, as all your posts do!

    I feel I fit into almost all the cases you mentioned.
    I AM a cracked pot myself and very rarely speak out and up about it, simply because I feel people are not supposed to bear the hearing of my complaints. Or because I myself have to hear other people speaking out and up.
    It usually takes years until I realise I am able to do something – and when I do, I feel as if I’ve missed out so much in not taking the step earlier.
    Uncountless times I find myself apoloziging for my own family’s mistake or cracks – that makes me feel so bad afterwards.
    I own a huge lack of self-confidence and compare myself to people I admire very often. That has sometimes inspired me to go on and to do better, but there is nothing as depressing as comparing ourselves to other people – we are alwyas in the drop-down side.

    But fortunately I have been able to keep the good ones – as well as the bad ones altogether. And yes….. I see some of the flowers blossoming along the way because of me, but it takes other people to tell me so… or I have had to learn the longest and the hardest way.

    It was my daughter’s wedding yesterday. It was a very beautiful and emotional ceremony and lunch party. She did not permit my husband to go to the lunch party, due to his constant rude ways towards us. Because of this, he then refused to go to the wedding ceremony, as well. I was in the middle of all that, feeling so happy for my daughter and at the same time, feeling so cracked myself, unable to fix the family’s cracks. How could a father not go to his only beloved daughter? How could a daughter not forgive her father of his constant flaws?

    As you can see, your post has come just in time for refection. Thank you so much – it certainly was and is food for thought.

    Best wishes,
    Karina de Cillo

    • Dear Katrina:

      All I can say is Wow! You shared so much about your personal life here. Congratulations on your daughter’s wedding, if you can please send me some photographs privately I would love to see the wedding. It is sad that your daughter and her father cannot come together, but perhaps in time things will change between them.

      You have so much to give to the world and you do. Even if you are a cracked pot you are providing nourishment to many around you. Never lose sight of the fact that you do contribute to this world.

      I’m glad that I posted this today as I’ve had this for some time, but just never found a moment to put it up.

      Please know how special you are!

      Many blessings,
      Cherokee Billie

  2. godspeedn said:

    I needed to hear this today. I have been feeling down lately… this came right on time.
    Godspeed,
    N

  3. What a wonderful story and message! Thank you for posting this Cherokee Billie. It really resonated with me and is very timely to what I am experiencing at the moment myself and with my children and their interactions with others. Have a great day! 🙂

  4. Keep growing! 🙂

  5. robjam972000 said:

    Awww this was good timing for me too… Thanks, what words of wisdom in that story…. loved it and so very very true…… Susanxoxox

  6. Reblogged this on In My Own Words and commented:
    I am definitely a cracked pot trying to plug up my holes.

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